Abusive behaviors continuum

Abusive behaviors can be placed on continuums which span from totally healthy behavior to totally abusive behavior.
  non-abusive -------    -- very abusive 

This spread is one of the things that makes abuse so confusing and complicates determining whether specific behavior is abusive in a specific situation.

Examples of behavior continuums:

Yelling
clearly non-abusive: warning someone of immediate danger
in the middle:  speaking loudly to press a point
very abusive: loud, aggressive threats or demeaning comments

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How abusive women abuse men: introduction

Abuse is a pattern of reoccurring behaviors involving self-centered motivations. It is common for abuse to run in cycles of more intense and less intense phases, possibly involving a period of regret, apology, and promises of change.

Some behaviors, like stabbing or stalking, are blatantly abusive. Other abusive behaviors may be more confusing. Many potentially-abusive behaviors can occur in non-abusive situations. Unplanned pregnancies really are accidental sometimes. People are irritable sometimes and say inappropriate things. A partner may not be in the mood for sex for a myriad of reasonable reasons. The difference between abuse and normal is often found in frequency and motivation. And frequency may not be about reoccurrences of the same abusive behavior but rather a combination of behaviors.

Ways abusive women abuse men: a list

Abusive people sometimes have methods-of-choice and so focus their abuse in a few select ways. Others use a variety-pack of abuses. The following are examples of how abusive women abuse men. Some of the ways women abuse are the same or similar to those used by men, some are unique to women.  It is important to be clear that it would not be expected that all the possible techniques are used in each case.